The EQ is high and apt to extricate oneself from a plight Success 80 comes from the EQ

The EQ is high and apt to extricate oneself from a plight Success 80 comes from the EQ
The EQ is high and apt to extricate oneself from a plight Success 80 comes from the EQ
The research about the EQ has been emerging in an endless stream all the time since at the beginning: Discover, succeed 80% come from the EQ, 20% come from the IQ; Also the scientist points out, the person with tall EQ is more creative; Someone thinks, so long as can arouse mood, can arouse everything even more. In the heavy earthquake of Wen Sichuan of this magnitude 8 on the Richter scale, the advantage of the high EQ comes to light too. It makes us witness the life miracle after 72 hours above the countless ruins that collapse - -Bury into girl for 79 hour rescue, tease hair, facing toward the camera, say: "I am OK, everybody rests assured. " ; Another first sentence which boys opened one's mouth and said, " the uncle, I want to drink coke " As to this, China's calamity is defended the association and rescued Li ZongHao, president of medical association, and said with deep feeling, besides essential condition of surviving of material, the superstrong spiritual will is to let them surmount the terminal important reason. And this, manifestation of the only high EQ. The person with tall EQ is easier to succeed, easier to extricate oneself from a plight. Succeed in, 80% come from EQ mention EQ, I'm afraid a lot of people the IQ in possibility that first response expect. People's knowledge of IQ may be said much, from earliest seven-piece puzzle to developmental game various in style of today, temper the method of the IQ. It is not enough but only there is high IQ, psychologists of Harvard University Howard and Gardiner proposed in 1983, people have " plural intelligence " ,And the height of mentioning the EQ to stand side by side with the IQ for the first time. And the real one " The EQ " A word, is initiated by the fine jade plum of peacekeeping New Hampshire university of psychologists of Yale University Peter and Serra, namely EQ. Professor of Peking University department of psychology Xie Xiao does not tell " life Times " reporter, the EQ is control over mood and control ability. U.S.A.'s authoritative investigation reveals, in the past 20 years, this country's political circles and the business circles successful personage's average IQ are only medium-sized, the EQ but it is very high. The social psychologist finds whether one could succeed, the IQ only acts as the bearing, 80% left come from the EQ. "However, up till now, compared with IQ test, judging that there is not unified quantized standard to level of EQ. " Xie Xiao does not say. But American psychologist, the generalizations of 5 respects done on EQ of author Daniel and Gorman of " mood intelligence ", can be regarded as the rough standard that we weigh: First, perceive mood oneself. Understand to one's own mood change that is relatively clear, forgets oneself as can be realized one's own. Second, control the mood. Especially in by chance been bad for mood to when,can cool down quickly,even scrutinize from another positive angle again. For example on the highway, a car inserted to the front of you suddenly. The first response of yours is probably to scold in the heart secretly: "Hateful! Almost bump against me! " Then want to be angrier and angrier, even may result in driving rashly. At this moment, more effective method is " judging again " . You can tell oneself: " perhaps this driver is in a hurry " . Another method is to go away alone, let oneself cool down. Third, encourage oneself. The wild and goal, get up quickly when fall down while advancing; Understand others mood, can think people think and worried people worried while being only. Fifth, art and skill in the interpersonal relationships, for example write firm names of others once. Can save oneself in high EQ the person with tall EQ is not merely apt to succeed, may save oneself in the predicament too. At all times and in all lands, all Cheng DaYe person have not gone through all kinds of hardships and difficulties without one - -Beethoven has " clutched the throat of destiny " in a situation that the ears become deaf ,Have created the famous " destiny symphony "; Cao XueQin writes into " Dream of the Red Chamber " after the whole family ruined. In front of all sorts of tribulation, they did not bow, met the difficulty instead, has gone out of the mire of life. In the disaster survivor, do not lack the person of the similar high EQ either. The old man of Lu GuiLan of survivor of the heavy earthquake of Tangshan in 1976 has been fully buried for 13 days under the ruins. She recalls afterwards, have been singing while burying secretly all the time by oneself, has sung " reach a decision ", sing " the Dongfanghong ", " I think of, very much, think PLA man can come on, rescue I. " After this Wen's Sichuan earthquake, doctor of Guangzhou general hospital of Wuhan of Military Area Command Fang Qing participating in rescuing says, succour the situation, think right away, the proportion which is rescued women should be higher than men slightly, there are very great relations between psychological conditions and health structures of this and woman. "In psychology, the mood that women can be so steady as to live, the gentle psychology will reduce the energy consumption, can let people support under the abominable environment longer. " The mental hygiene Lu QiuYun, professor of research institute in Peking University shows, people are in the predicament, the psychology is very important. Psychology positive person will think " I will save, whom I can live on " ,They will try every possible means to live on more calmly at this moment; The person with passive psychology is easy to give up. American psychological expert, researcher train consultant expert Dr. Paul and Stotz to begin since the beginning of the 1990s of last century, have carried on research for 10 years continuously. In 1500 results of study, he finds, was just finishing the operation, in the patient who had an uncertain life, patient with tall EQ, the probability of spending critical days is greater, the health resumes too faster. He points out, when being of vital importance, the person of the high EQ is good at perceiving one's own alarmed, frightened mood. Later, they will remove these bad mood as soon as possible, regarded seeking the solution as the most critical task. Meanwhile, they are persistent in a certain goal, at this moment, try to become motive force that they adhere to in hope of the victory. The EQ can raise " IQ is mostly decided by congenital factor, difficult to change " the day after tomorrow; But the EQ can be trained while as a child, even if after growing up, the EQ can be improved through training. " Xie Xiao does not point out. To child, parents should train their EQ while as a child. First of all, let the child learn to wait. For example give children a candy, let themselves shell and open paper of candy, even if this will spend a long time, parents should not do either. For example, wait on line for the bus bringing children, let children know that learn to wait again, train their patience. Secondly, learn to start well and end well. After the child finishes playing with the toy, must let them put back the toy in the normal position. If they do it in this way, do not need stingy your praise; Have certain punishment on the contrary. Finally, let children tell and experience. Parents can encourage children to say one's own feeling every day, no matter happy or sad, in this way, can temper their acumen degree to oneself's mood. And as the adult, should control one's own mood on one hand. When anything crops up, to perceiving the mood best method is to keep a close eye on one's own heart rate, take care, jump to 100 time about fast every minute, must adjust psychology. The deep breath is the most common way, in addition, talk to oneself " I am calm " , it has pieces of hot bathes to be good method. Certainly, the method that the American psychologist Tang received Ai Deng is worth giving a recommendation: The unpleasant thing of thinking, put the figer tip on the forehead above the eyebrow, the thumb presses the temple, inhale deeply. Only takes several minutes, the blood can return to the cerebral cortex, you will control excitedly. On the other hand, clear away the thing of waste energy. Unfavorable to a great obstacle that the EQ improves, it is those things of wasting energy. You want do to list all the intersection of waste and thing of energy at first, then tell, may change and can't change. Give up the latter, solve the ones that can change. Take great energy for being unable to find the car key as usual, then remember sticking a hook at the gate, hang the key above. If things go on like this, you will find the ability to handle problem and deal with the crisis by oneself has been improved.


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